Being a ‘queer’ woman married to a straight man made Ispy invisible in a heteronormative world. It took her gay identity away and made it very difficult for her to be her authentic self for many years. Ispy did identify as bisexual, though she struggles with labelling something that she believes falls into a spectrum, isContinue reading “Ispy came out … again ❤️ 👩❤️💋👩 🏳️🌈”
Author Archives: ispydystopia
Becoming Ispy …
25 years ago, at the age of 25 (see what I did there?) Ispy came out for the first time. This revelation didn’t make one iota of difference to her lifestyle at the time, but it felt a little bit like adding a missing jigsaw piece to a life’s work puzzle. Confused as a teenagerContinue reading “Becoming Ispy …”
BOOBS IV
So that is what she did… Ispy drove home and told her 13 year old daughter that she had just been diagnosed with breast cancer. They held each other tight and Ispy was brave and strong, and promised the girl that mummy would fight to stay alive and watch her live her life. You mayContinue reading “BOOBS IV”
How do you define sexual assault?
Ispy is 14 years old and is on holiday in Italy with her biological father and her 12 year old brother. Pretty much left to their own devices, Ispy and her brother roam the complex day and night while their father is in the bar, and doesn’t come back to the chalet most nights. HerContinue reading “How do you define sexual assault?”
BOOBS III
This September will be three years since Ispy was diagnosed with a primary breast cancer in her right breast. Treatment for breast cancer varies considerably depending on the type of tumour, the stage of the cancer (how far it has progressed), age (ie pre, peri, post menopausal), family and genetic history and context and theContinue reading “BOOBS III”
Freedom continued…
Are we every truly free? So we have free will; at least we do if we have a degree of wealth, education and live in a capitalist state that provides us with a focus for our wants and desires, right? But is this truly freedom? Tied to the 9 to 5. Bound by financial commitment.Continue reading “Freedom continued…”
Boobs II
In the UK one in 7 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. When Ispy was diagnosed in 2018 that statistic was 1:8. Let that sink in … The national incidence in the UK for women being diagnosed with a primary breast cancer is going up year on year. At the sameContinue reading “Boobs II”
Boobs
Ispy loves her boobs. She loves the shape, the size and the feel of her breasts. She loves that they were the sole source of sustenance for her child for 6 months and a source of comfort and affection for a full 13 months – until child bit nipple and the response put her offContinue reading “Boobs”
Freedom
Freedom is…Freedom is pen to paper, Freedom is fingers to keyboard, Freedom is pages in a book, Freedom is words on a screen, Freedom is the thoughts in my head, But are they free if they can’t be seen? Free Bird – Lynyrd Skynyrd To be free The last week has been dominated by newsContinue reading “Freedom”
What is a Mother?
Ispy’s mother was just 19 when Ispy was born. Young, naive and head strong. A dangerous combination. The young family were isolated in a rural and remote farmhouse shared with the paternal uncle of Ispy’s father. This was 1970, parties and free love were abundant. Legend has it that the young couples drunken friends wouldContinue reading “What is a Mother?”
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